You can’t play on broken strings

What do you think of arranged marriage? Would you consider it?

We were catching up, talking about an acquaintance who had married young and how she is now, when my companion suddenly posed the question. I took a few minutes before answering that I’m not completely against it. People marry for all kinds of reasons and if two strangers are willing to work at having a good life together, why not?
HijabMan however said most couples in arranged marriages that he know of hate each other.
I guess the modern life is not exactly conducive to nurture this kind of arrangment, what with the accepted concept of love between two people requires a lot more than knowing a future mate’s name and whether he is from a good family or not. Still, with the number of divorce continue to rise, even between the most perfect couple you have ever seen, makes me think that arranged marriages may not be so bad after all.

Ah well, what do I know, eh.


4 thoughts on “You can’t play on broken strings

  1. eddycute says:


    at first i thought maybe an arranged marriage can be a good thing. but then again, i just remembered there are too many weirdos out there.

    btw, love that song!

  2. ayu says:

    i only personally know of one couple who’s done an arranged marriage. sejak kecik tu…and they’re very happy actually. i always say the same thing when ppl ask me this question (and it has been asked before…esp back in the states once they know that i am both asian and muslim – yeah go figure about the asian thing…it ain’t obvious to a lot of people)…that there are ppl who marry for a lot less…shrug.

  3. norzu says:

    exactly, so many ppl marry for a lot less.

  4. sara says:

    cik nor 🙂

    arranged marriage will work if one party agree to surrender rights, demands, preference. it usually is the woman. during times where women wait to be rescued or taken care of, boleh lah, but if you have an independent mind?

    we all want to believe in that perfect love story of two people being thrown together and making it work againts all odds.

    but in truth, except for the lucky few, it will not succeed unless of you are willing to sacrifice a major chunk of yourself.

    love marriage does not have tht great a success rate. but at least you know what you are walking into. it is your choice. it will be your consequence.

    here i know people who do the modern version of arranged marriage: their parents arrange the introduction, and they date to see if they fit.

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